We all have a certain level of programming that we bring with us as we go through life and as we enter and are in relationships. This programming is partly made up by the experiences we had as children and comprise much of how our parents or primary caregivers treated us. From birth to around the age of 7 our brain is doing a lot of learning and changing. These early experiences with caregivers get solidified into our brain and they become the basis for our programming.
Read moreWhen is it time to leave my relationship?
One of the most common issues that I work on with women in my therapy practice is helping them to understand the dis-satisfaction they have in their relationship. Often my clients will ask me what are the signs that they should leave their partner. There is no magic formula for making this decision and what I mostly end up telling them is to take their time, gather as much evidence as they can about the relationship and the state it is in, and be confident in their decision to stay or go.
Read more3 Ways Therapy Can Help Your Relationship
Each couple brings in a unique set of challenges and experiences that dictate their needs in couples therapy. Your therapist can discuss with you what your needs are and can help you and your partner create goals for couples therapy. Along with those goals that you create with your therapist there are some benefits that just go along with doing couples therapy.
Read moreYour Relationship After Baby
Even the best of couples can feel off in their relationship after a baby arrives. Exhaustion has set in, routines have changed, and you are in the midst of renegotiating household responsibilities. As the kids get older it can continue to feel as if you and your partner are no longer spending time
Read moreExciting Updates
I'm sorry I have been a little bad about being consistent with my blogging lately. Next week I will return to posting regularly on Wednesday mornings. In the meantime I have been contributing to online blogs, you probably read the one from last week that I posted "Tips for Talking to Your Therapist" and this week I have another great one for you to read. This article is all about being vulnerable in your relationship, such a hard thing to do! It's from the Bustle website and features tips from many different therapist's and some comments from yours truly. Here is a link to the article if you are interested What To Do If You're Having a Hard Time Being Vulnerable In a Relationship also on Bustle 13 Small Changes You Can Make this Weekend to Reduce Your Anxiety.
Read moreTips for Talking to your Therapist
Wondering what to say to your therapist? Worried you won't know what to share once you are in the room. Here is a link to an article that may be able to help.
Read moreAfter the Baby: Getting Your Relationship Back on Track
Even the best of couples can feel off in their relationship after a baby arrives. Exhaustion has set in, routines have changed, and you are in the midst of renegotiating household responsibilities. As the kids get older it can continue to feel as if you and your partner are no longer spending time together, connecting, taking time to be a couple.
John Gottman is a researcher who has studied couples and is considered a
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