You may have noticed throughout my blog and website that I refer to feelings as uncomfortable and comfortable. That’s because we therapists believe that feelings are neither good or bad, they just are. An uncomfortable feeling might be sadness, anger or anxiety. A comfortable feeling might be joy or happiness. Noticing the ways that feelings show up in your body can help you decipher if they are comfortable or uncomfortable.
Frequently when a person experiences many uncomfortable feelings they start to develop defenses to those feelings or they start to look for ways to numb those feelings. Some common defenses to feelings are; overworking, drinking, avoiding, and sometimes even anxiety can be a defense.
Learning to work through our defenses and to experience the core emotions below our feelings is a key step in being able to work through uncomfortable feelings and in being able to let them go. Finding a way to access your feelings and to sit with those uncomfortable feelings is important.
This week, as your homework, think about some of the defenses that you might have developed over time that keep you from being able to experience your core emotions.